Pressure Makes Diamonds

Skinny Bitch

2008-12-06T21:33:00.000-08:00

Why does everyone hate on the skinny girls?? You know the girls that can eat whatever they want and then don't gain any weight. Women often try to point the finger at men about those notions that label women and make them feel like they need to fit within a certain definition of beauty, but women hurt each other much more. Not everyone is gonna have a figure eight. Surely, they you can pay for a surgeon to make you look like whomever you want but its much cheaper to be yourself. Its especially prevalent in the Black Community where some people believe every black man is after a big booty and a hot plate. People always assume that a thin body type is some type of unfair advantage on others! I'm constantly annoyed and pressured mainly by other women that I am too thin. Its as though there is a new movement against the thin women of the world! I am well aware that there are women who are starving themselves but I am not one of them so please keep it moving! I am natural and don't want to be attacked for it. Even beautiful black women in the modeling industry are ridiculed for their size, without regard for the fact that their bodies are REAL!

Beautiful Skinny Women of Colour

noemie lenoire

naomi campbell

selita ebnks

emanuela de paula

liya kebede

Common Misconceptions about Skinny Women

Its easier to shop.
Skinny Women are all evil and conceited, FALSE I don't consider myself to be evil or conceited, personally I chose not to mess around and I'm not one for game play. Furthermore, I do not speak ambiguously to people. I keep it REAL.
Skinny Women have our own foods "Skinny Bitch Food" i.e. salads and tofu
Skinny Women have Eating Disorders
Skinny Women don’t know they are skinny, I am aware that I am thin I don't need to be reminded.
Skinny Women are in shape.
You can say whatever you want to Skinny Women, never underestimate your opponent.
Most Men do not find Skinny Women attractive.

I'm the smallest in my family and proud to be a Skinny Bitch! I may not have ass for days, but my body is real. FYI, skinny never went out of style and it takes much more than a hot body to be successful in any relationship whether its business or romantic. A pretty face, a thin waist, and thick hips will only take you so far, and that's the reality for Thin Women too. People we are in a recession you must come better than that! Men can't be picky, they're probably more concerned with your mind and your FICO score than looks. Ladies, we have to accept our bodies for what they are, If we don't love ourselves we can never expect anyone else to. We should embrace our differences as opposed to using them to hate on one another!

Un-Be-Weaveable Hair

2008-12-06T19:30:00.000-08:00

Its about to be 2009 and a lot has changed in regards to the way we define beauty and fashion. Years ago it used to be a bad thing to have a weave, but that's probably because it was detectable and done poorly. Today its a common fashion trend among women, unfortunately like other trends people always find a way to mess something up. Ladies, times have changed and we need to step up our weave game. First, only buy the best and that's Indian Remi, especially for women of color its on average about 50 an oz and can run you about $300 to $800, however it can last up to 12 months with proper care and maintenance. There are many brands of hair at your local beauty supply which offer this Indian Remi, it is cheaper but for the most part its of pretty good quality. Second, hire a professional. Stop letting your best friend's cousin's sister-in law's niece do your hair to avoid paying the price for experience and overall your sanity! Third, protect your hair, keep it moisturized, use ceramic products as well as products designed to protect from heat. Finally, keep in mind that oftentimes the most expensive products are not the best and laced up with chemicals. Use products that are primarily composed of natural extracts. See Below for the Examples of the Good, the Bad and the Ugly!

Not a Good Look

Before Britney's Conservatorship was in full effect Ms. Spears was clearly in dire need of an Intervention of the Hair Persuasion!

This chick is more famous for looking a hot mess than for being a "Hottie".

I really can't blame her for hitting that poor assistant on the head with a phone, its obvious she wasn't getting your stylist fast enough.

I feel like Frankie had something to do with this

Crack is Whack, you must be high to step out looking like this!

You're supposed to be the baddest in the game??

Ladies on Top of their Game

Slow Down!!

2008-12-01T19:51:00.000-08:00

Today, I witnessed the most amazing thing, which further proves my theory that people will damn near kill themselves to board the metro. I watched as a lady obviously in a hurry to get to her cubicle downtown began running in order to board the train that had already been at the station for a few moments. She ran so fast at about 187 steps per minute, she was running so fast it was as thought she wasn't running at all. Comparable to Hydroplaning, her feet skid across the tile still moist form early morning dew as she stepped off the escalator leading to the train platform and then the unthinkable happened, she lost her balanced and began to lean forward into a fall. It wasn't any type of fall either, as she fell flat on her belly she skid across the platform like she was riding a skateboard on her stomach. While her body treaded the tile and her chin was significantly scuffed, she watched in humiliation as the train door chimed and people hopped, skipped and brushed past her in their own efforts to board the train without any regard for her well being.
She missed that train this morning, but her injury was further insulted when she dusted herself off, looked up and realized that the next train was arriving in 2 mins!! It was so funny I couldn't laugh. I wonder why people risk their lives, and the safety of others to board the train. If your always late get you lazy ass up a little earlier in the morning, stop with all the stunts, these are the same idiots that cause those "sick passenger" delays. I couldn't feel bad for the lady, she was too exaggerated. In life there are always things to slow us down and keep us grounded. RELAX

Love

2008-11-30T19:56:00.000-08:00

Although I believe that many people have their own sense of REALITY, I think that just like beauty love is in the eye of the beholder. Sometimes the love we get from our partner is not adequate, or up to parr. However, from their perspective the love they give is just fine. Where is the common ground? Who decides if this is love or not? Shouldn't we be loved the way we want to? Oftentimes, I look at women who are always in abusive relationships that to me seem unfufilling and hurtful and I realize this Love, maybe the type of love they want, or need. There are plenty of women out here asking for good men but aren't ready for that type of love. I've watched my own mother go from one abusive relationship to the next and finally, when she meets the man of her dreams, who respects her and treats her as an equal, she disrespects him and abuses him the same way those other men did her. Are we really ready for those things that we ask for?? For me personally, I believe love is the state in which one deceives themselves about someone else. When you are "In LOVE" you can't tell a good man from a serial killer. We see things how we want, we trick ourselves into accept those things we otherwise wouldn't deal with. I was once "In LOVE", I lost myself in that person, I would do anything for them. Even though we were on two different paths, I fooled myself into believing that our relationship was fate when in reality it was very destructive and one-sided. I would skip classes I was paying for to be with this individual, and it meant nothing to them. I made a lot of stupid sacrifices and choices. In the end after they cheated on me, I realized no matter what I did for them, how much I supported them, they were accustomed to being in relationships where people didn't care about them and they were not able to accept the Love I was giving them. It was their sense normalcy that I was attacking, pushing them to learn about themselves and realizing their dreams was too much. As a young single woman, I know that I cannot live my life like Carrie Bradshaw, but a little bit more responsibly. As women we have to realize who we are and what we want. Men or Women..whatever your preference is, are not like houses, they are not things we invest in to change and make our own. I'm not looking for any fixer-uppers, I can barely put myself back together let alone anyone else. Some women go through the trash looking for a mate then get mad when they get themselves someone who is reflection of that atmosphere. No One will treat you better than themselves, if they treat themselves like trash, there's no way they will treat you any better! Know yourself, what you want, and strive for it!!

False Reality

2008-11-23T19:29:00.000-08:00

I've come to the realization that everyone has their own false sense of what is real. Whether its their weight, that they're in control of a situatuion, or that those $360 pair of pumps was worth an overdrawn account, I am convinced that everyone has their THING! That itch you always have to scratch, that flaw no one sees but you. I work amongst the most arrogant attorneys in the DMV and they all think they're the best! People take themselves too seriously and are way too sensitive. My THING is my ex. No matter what they say all I hear is "There is nothing I would want more than anything than to be with you". Call me Crazy but I already know I'm insane, but what's more horrifying is that people everywhere suffer from this same dissability. Now to a certain extent its totally true that my Ex wants to be with me, but "my own" sense of what's happening outside of whats real and tangible versus those things considered abstract are always at war! Causing me to oftentimes confuse the that which I see and hear and the message that THING is trying to get across to me. I know it annoys them for me to rant and rave about how much they don't love me because their actions are not consistent with their tales of love and admiration! Now when I am able to really think about it I feel a little sorry for them, it seems that many simple messages of love and adoration, of hope and faith in our relationship have somehow been transposed and torn apart en route from their lips to my ears. I'm always confusing myself, getting worked up and emotional, writing them off.....just to call them a few days later telling them how much I Love them for loving me despite my insanity. Everything in this World is run by a cycle. Our individual grasp of reality is one of those things. One day your fine the next, you've been committed to Saint E's. Whether a monthly recurrence or something that happens less often, they can be controlled. Bottom line stop causing yourself to see what isn't there. No you're not Dyslexic you just crazy, lucky for you the World runs on Insanity!